Ashamed of shaming? Stories of managing, deflecting, and acknowledging shame after committing image-based sexual abuse

  • Sidsel K. Harder University of Copenhagen
  • Amy A. Hasinoff University of Colorado Denver

Abstract

While a range of studies examine what drives people to nonconsensually distribute sexual images, there is little research on what they feel after having shamed someone online. Do image-sharers feel any shame themselves? Using narrative criminology, we analyze their statements during police investigations to examine if and how they manage shame. We find that many stories about committing image-based sexual abuse deny responsibility, neutralize actions, and deflect blame onto victims. This supports previous qualitative research that offenders are so absorbed by male bonding and a need to control and objectify women that they are incapable of feeling shame after image-based sexual abuse. However, we also find that nearly as many stories about nonconsensual sharing focus on expressing shame for having lost control, admitting to having caused harm, and vowing to lead better lives in the future. These statements describe nonconsensual sexual image sharing as accidental, thoughtless, or impulsive, which supports some previous survey research. Our findings suggest that Internet researchers studying online abuse might pay greater attention to shame management, including how people blame digital technology for harmful behavior. We conclude that restorative justice processes could potentially help people who have committed image-based abuse acknowledge shame and try to repair the harm.

Author Biographies

Sidsel K. Harder, University of Copenhagen

Sociologist researching sexual images in pornography, sexting and image-based sexual abuse. She is currently pursuing a Ph.D. at the Department of Sociology at University of Copenhagen and has previously published on sexuality, drugs and nightlife.

Amy A. Hasinoff, University of Colorado Denver

Associate Professor of Communication at the University of Colorado Denver

Published
2021-03-21
How to Cite
Harder, S. K., & Hasinoff, A. A. (2021). Ashamed of shaming? Stories of managing, deflecting, and acknowledging shame after committing image-based sexual abuse. First Monday, 26(4). https://doi.org/10.5210/fm.v26i4.11671